The woman - woman thing (I)

Having not had any luck with guys I decided to go for women. However, this is proving even less straight (haha) - forward than pursuing/enticing others to pursue me their male counterparts.

Date #1
We met in Stratford, went for a coffee, went for a walk, went for a drink. Lovely. Lovely chats. All just so very lovely. Except that I decided that we didn't have enough in common and that in any case I wouldn't have enough time to start a proper relationship (which begs the question of why I joined a paying dating site). We might still meet up but, well, that train is gone.

Date #2
Complete disaster. Should have DEFINITELY exchanged pictures before. We met for a pizza in Soho and while we had a nice conversation it was not all too easy to fill the 60 minutes which entertaining questions along the lines of: err, so, ehm, what do you do? Oh. I see. Interesting! Now, when you say... then what do you mean by that. Ah, computer stuff. Hm.

Date #3 
Well this has yet to happen. Lovely teacher woman from the dating site stopped writing to me. Another girl was going to go on a walk but then wasn't. The others write occasionally but I haven't got a date out of them yet. En lieu of a date, one might say, I met this lovely (hot!!!) lady to make music together - she'll play the piano and I'll sing. The purpose of our meeting was to exchange music so it wasn't a proper date (and, it turns out, she's married). Being German (no, not rude, just ever so slightly direct when this hasn't been asked for) she almost immediately told me that she wasn't getting the 'gay vibe' from me, even though her gaydar usually works quite well. It's not really the longish hair she said (at this point she showed me a picture of her partner who also has shoulder length hair) but the way I move and gesticulate. I see. She then proceeded to ask me whether I had ever had a girlfriend (nope), whether I had ever had sex with a girl (nope) and how I could then know that I like women as for her it was just a theory until, at the age of 18,she tried it out. I see. Whilst it was ever so slightly awkward and uncomfortable I do, in hindsight, appreciate her candour and am looking forward to meeting her again. Having been to G-A-Y with my only other gay friend, I could really do with some more bi/gay friends.